I hope everyone had an enjoyable week!
I have been wanting to write about this since I began my blog because I feel so strongly about this topic. Being a positive person has always been a struggle for me. It has always been easy for me to fall into a pit of worry, sadness, and all around negativity. I feel that many of us face this challenge on a daily basis.
I have been one of those people where if someone says something rude, if something doesn’t go according to plan, or if I feel as if I have failed in some way, it will wreck my day. I keep going back to those “failures”, so much so that even when I experience success, they are always shadowed by what I see as my flaws.
Luckily, I have been trying out a few things that I feel have really helped me in concentrating on the good vs. the bad!
So here are 5 things that have helped me become a more positive person!
- Make a conscious decision to start every day brand new.
- This one is probably the most difficult for me than the rest of the things I will mention. Making a decision to be positive is easier said than done, but I feel that once you decide to be positive in the little moments, it really does add up to a more positive outlook on life!
- When I wake up in the morning, I try to tell myself the same thing every single time, whether it is the moment I open my eyes or later when I am drinking my coffee. That today is a new day, and as long as I do the best I can, it will be a good day! The way I see it is that sure I might have said the wrong things, or not have had time to do the dishes the day before, but that is OK! As long as I make an attempt to be kind, intentional, and happy, then that is all that really matters. As long as I am doing my absolute best in everything I do, then I feel like that is a job well done!
- I am a serial worrier (especially about the little things!). For some reason, I think that if something is not done or said right away, then the world will end at that very moment! I don’t understand why I have this need to have everything figured out as soon as possible, but if it is not, I begin to think of the worst outcomes! “This person will hate me forever if I don’t give them an answer or if I say no.” “My whole family is going to starve because I didn’t have time to make dinner and now everyone is home.” “I haven’t gotten a chance to put the laundry away and now someone is on their way over and they are going to judge me and my home, and then tell everyone!” Obviously, none of those things are going to be the reality of the situation, so I have tried to train my brain to understand the benefits of just pressing the pause button.
- Breathe! Whatever the worst outcome is in this situation, it is fixable! I can put the laundry away later. That person won’t hate me (even if they are upset, they will get over it). If they judge, that is not on me. Who cares?
- Understand what you want and communicate that to others.
- As I started to really concentrate on studying why I had a negative mindset, I realized that I had the tendency to not share what I wanted with the people around me. I was so afraid of confrontation that I was sacrificing my own wants and needs for others wants, which had caused me to basically put myself in a bubble in the back of my mind.
- What I started to do when I was in a situation where I was faced with a decision I had to make, I would ask myself “What do I want?” And then I would think of a respectful way to convey that want to others. And what do you know, it actually worked! I made a decision that made me happy, and helped others understand! Whoa!
- Choosing a healthier lifestyle!
- I never would have guessed that choosing to become healthier would have aided in my positivity, but it definitely did! This one is very simple!
- The healthier I ate, and the more active I became, my body was suddenly calm and positive. Treat your body with kindness! It really will benefit you in the end!
- Surrounding yourself with positive people.
- The saying that you become who you surround yourself with is very true! I noticed that when I was with people who constantly complained, or had a more negative outlook on life, the sadder and more negative I became. And the other way around, the more I surrounded myself around people who were more positive and happier in general, the happier I became. I started to tell myself how awesome simple things were. I began noticing small acts of kindness I had always overlooked. And when someone did treat me disrespectfully, I had finally learned to brush it off. Because the only thing I can change is myself and how I react to certain things. You can’t be everybody’s cup of tea.
- Find friends who share your interests! Make it a point to see them somewhat often. Lift others up! Offer to help even if you get nothing in return. These small actions really do make the biggest differences!
For me, being positive is still a daily mission. Some days are harder than others, but that is OK! Because I am human, and one mistake will not be the end of the world!
I hope this post helps if you are also someone who has struggled/struggles with leading a happier life!
Comment down below if any of these things may have worked for you!
I hope everyone has an awesome weekend and I will talk to you in my next post!!